Familiarity – Living Without, Growing Within

If you had a choice of staying in your comfort zone or having to give up comfy familiarity to be able to grow as a person, what would you choose? Most of us would say there are limits to what we would be willing to give up. We all like our favorite chair and our…Read more »

Choking on Trauma

Enough already!! It is no longer funny when someone passes out. Children have a difficult time knowing what the limit is, in many situations. Good way to know is when you are bullying someone and they pass out. The memories can be more damaging than the event itself. And then there is the breath of…Read more »

Hospital Horrors

For life-savingĀ emergencies, hospitals are the greatest thing going. If I am in a car accident, rush me straight to one. For all other times, I personally have a very healthy fear of hospitals. My track record most likely accounts for it. As my personal experiences have evolved, I am amazed at the resilience a human…Read more »

Do you treat yourself as you desire others to treat you?

We have all heard the Golden Rule, “Treat others as you would want them to treat you.” What about how we treat ourselves? How are we treating ourselves in comparison to how we want others to treat us? The negative self-talk is usually cruelerĀ than what others would say to us. What about self-care? Are we…Read more »

Dancing the Twists and Turns of Trauma

Dancing with all of the twists and turns of trauma in our lives takes us places we never dreamed of. Some of them turn into adventures that bring us great delight and healing. Others take a dark turn that we need to endure to see the other side. As we learn to dance through the…Read more »

Days I Do Not Want to Feel the Pain

Not interested in feeling the pain of life every day. It hurts too much. It hurts so much that I simply do not feel the pain of it all today. Not the pain of disease or the chronic suffering from it. Not the pain of the decades of trauma and the consequences from others. Not…Read more »

Fear of Being Healthy

There are all kinds of reasons to be fearful of being healthy. As odd as it sounds, there really are. Once we recognize those fears that create barriers, we can move toward health more smoothly. Bridging the transition can be beautiful and yet there can be fear. Check out these legitimate reasons to be fearful…Read more »

Finding a Man Worthy of our Disease

It takes a man of great character to be worthy of a relationship with someone who has chronic illness, pain and trauma. Yes, I said that sentence correctly. There are many chronically ill people who desire healthy relationships through the journey of unhealthy bodies. Instead of looking at it like, “who would ever choose me,”…Read more »